Teenage Crisis Part 2 – Teenagers from HELL

Teenage Crisis Part 2 – Teenagers from HELL

I hate defiant kids. But this video really showed me how defiant and illogical kids can be during their adolescent period. When I saw the clip, I just felt very sorry for this girl’s mum. She’s 15 and desperate to be a mother. Anyone can be a mother, but it’s difficult to be a good mother there is a lot of emotional stress and responsibility involved. I must say this girl is really defiant and rude, our grandparents solution to this kind of behavior would be to chili padi into this girl’s mouth and slap her till she regains her senses. I’m still a conservative Asian when it comes to values such as respecting your elders and honoring your family. If you want to sleep around, go ahead, but do it discreetly. I think it’s nothing to be proud of.


And to make it worse, she had to humiliate herself further by announcing that she has slept with over 300 men on her mum’s bed no less. I really pity her mum- no mother on this earth would want to see their daughter mutate into some rabid nymphomaniac. Maybe she’s lying; maybe she’s doing this for the sake of publicity. Either way, it made her look really stupid and shallow. Her flagrant disrespect for her mother was so obvious when her mum caught her having sex with a different guy on her mum's bed THREE times! Her mum tried to force her into taking birth control but she would just hide it under her tongue. I'm quite unsure as to how mentally stable this girl is. She calls herself a "player but thats cool"- I think it must have been reallly traumatizing for her mother to hear of her daughter's reputation as a slut/whore. Furthermore, she collected a huge pile of baby stuff in preparation for a baby. Most pregant 15 year old I know end up foisting their bastards on their mothers. Poor mummy/granny- always the victim in the end because of their love for their children.


To my horror, this 15 year old girl has problems trying to force the father of her child to acknowledge his paternity just because he believes his elder brother has slept with her. That’s a tragic indication that there is a lack of trust and respect between the couple.


I hate it when I hear stories of children who physically abuse their parents. That’s not what I had in mind when it comes to paying back your parents for the whacking they gave you whilst growing up. I understand that a lot of children like to complain that their parents push them too hard. But they should always remember that parents always have your best interest in heart but they may not show it the right way. It seems children nowadays are very prone to hitting their parents. This girl wasn't remorseful at all, in fact, she giggled when shown a picture of her mother's battered face. She whacked her principle with a book and wrecked his window just because she didn't like it. That girl just has issues with respecting authority- beingg 16 doesn't mean you have to use your fist to establish your "dominance" and "freedom" to do what you want.


These Dope Girls are really inhuman and unremorseful- after watching this, I SWEAR parenthood will be permanently deleted from my dictionary. One deviant kid is bad, but THREE? They formed their own gang; they are smokers, drinkers, druggies, bullies, robbers and part-time prostitutes. I can only imagine their mother’s pain and stress when it comes to trying to keep her children in hand. It has reached the point that they don't take anything seriously anymore. To them, being arrested is a joke, trading sex for clothes and shoes is fine, and having sex for chinese food is fine. They think they can get away with everything- thats a really powerful sense of infallibility even for an average teenagers. The worse part of all, they don't feel shame or remorse, they think its "cool".


After looking at these clips, I’m truly traumatized. I guess kids go wild when parents don’t instill DISCIPLINE and RESPECT in them. As you can see, the kids in these video clips all come from single mother families. However, I thik that is not an excuse for such behavior. Coming from a culture that believes in the saying “Spare the rod and spoil the child”, I think it is purely the fault of the parents when kids go out of hand. It is not because they don’t love their children; it is because they do not instill a culture of firm discipline and respect. America has a culture of questioning authority especially if they do not think is right. Well, at the age of 13-18, your hormones and brain development will turn you into an irrational ogre that will make Shrek look cute.

Teenagers in Asia are taught the value of advice from elders because they have “eaten more salt/rice” than us (i.e. they have more experience). Mave and I agree that our mums can be classified as abusive, but we love them all the same. Now that we are older and wiser adults, we see the value in the strict upbringing that prevented us from turning into social deviants who take drugs, drop out of school and become criminals.

When I look at these videos, I won’t say that these problem kids come from backgrounds where their mothers are negligent or abusive. In fact, you can see their mothers’ love so clearly. However, their kids just don’t reciprocate that love! They go all out to make their mums feel like failures. I guess the greatest curse of motherhood is your love for your children. It makes you blind to their flaws and you will keep rationalizing their terrible behavior until its way too late to nip the problem in the bud.

As to kids like them- swearing isn’t cool, it’s not funny and it doesn’t make you look intelligent. Defiance will get you nowhere. When people criticize you, listen to them and learn from it. Discriminate good advice from the bad.

Damn, I sound like a blardy preacher. Sorry, I’m just traumatized. I hate it when stupid immature kids make a joke out of serious issues that they are not equipped to handle. Personally, I propose that all deviant children in Singapore should be rounded up and sent to boot camp.
Step 1: Set up a paramilitary organization to design and conduct the boot camp.
Step 2: Parents and teachers have to concur that the child is beyond parental control and apply for the kid’s entry into boot camp (for all demons aged below 21).
Step 3: Send enforcers to arrest the monsters and send them into boot camp for 6 months.
Step 4: Let the games begin! P.S. No Parental Visits!

The main purpose of boot camp is to make deviant adolescents understand what parental love is like and how pampered they are by their parents. In boot camp, they will be stripped of an identity, treated worse than a dog, starved, exercised, made to do their own laundry, make their beds, sleep on the cold floor, etc. Make them treasure the money that mummy and daddy gave them to buy nice food, comfortable clothes and shoes. It will make them remember the comfortable soft beds at home and the fan/air-con that could be switched on whenever it was warm. These factors coupled with a life of discipline, routine and rules would teach those demons a lessons.



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Extension of Boot Camp Post by Maves
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“Young people want discipline.” Seems like if there is one thing sensible that teenagers want, it’s discipline. Sounds crazy but it’s true. Many ex-juveniles are thankful for the people who told them, “Stop, it’s wrong.” But discipline doesn’t stop at highlighting the mistakes. I think teenagers need more than that.

Many problematic behaviors are a manifestation of the lack of rules and discipline at home. A lack of stability in the growing up environment increases the sense of insecurity in individuals, which can impair their ability to do the right thing at the right time. Routine and rules provide some form of stability for the child. What time is lunchtime? Where to sit at lunchtime? What to and not to do at the dining table? Simple rules help a child explore his environment, and to feel safe to make mistakes. Chaos and confusion due to a lack of rules and routine result in unruly behavior. Uncorrected misbehavior indirectly encourages children to persist in their actions.

If you have a problematic childhood, you’re going to turn into a problematic teen monster. An underdeveloped prefrontal cortex is not THE excuse to teenage madness. By the time they turn 13, they are strong, loud, rebellious, disrespectful, vulgar, and almost vomit-inducing. Ask my teenagers, they tell you counseling is bullshit, they say it doesn’t work. I never think my teenagers are hopeless. They desperately need help. Their unruly behavior, anger, and tears are calls for help. I learn that if they say “I don’t care”, they actually do care.

Boot camp sounds good to me. Introduce some rules and routine in their lives. Give them a wake up call, what I affectionately term as “wake up their bloody idea”. Let them learn rules and respect again, and help them appreciate what they have. Teenagers these days live in their own world. They think mummy and daddy will be there forever, providing for them. They think that no one can do anything to them, and if they get into trouble, mummy and daddy will cover their asses for them. They believe that everyone will forgive their mistakes so that they can make more mistakes.

I believe parents are to be blamed if their teenagers think this way. I mean, each child was a clean angelic sheet when he was born. If parents are wise enough to recognize the seriousness of teen issues, they still have a chance to right their wrongs.




"It takes courage to become happy --
courage to remain true to one's convictions,
courage not to be defeated by one's weaknesses and negativity,
courage to take swift action to help those who are suffering."
~Daisaku Ikeda